Happens a lot when certain people come and show their “concern” about your life situations. It may be about your life, health, career, marriage etc.
Having concern is a good thing. But then, at times, it ends up being a situation where they are just transferring their anxiety on you and worsening the situation for you.
For example, you are going through issues with your career, they give free advise on what is to be done. The advice is not specific or workable. I like people who do real acts like giving interest free loan to start a business. Or can refer clients for your business or give referrals for jobs. These are what I call as “real help” instead of free advise. Before giving advice, ask us, what we have planned. Can you help me realise my plan? Yes do it. We don’t need your free advise. A free advise without real help is an empty promise. We don’t need it.
At times, these people feel guilt or they think that they want to show that they are concerned, but not ready to make real help or contribution. So they do what they do best: give advice on how to handle the situation differently. And blame us that we aren’t doing enough.
The worst part of such advise is that, it creates more anxiety to us. It makes us lose faith in what we are doing.
If you are going through such a situation where people are giving free advise, just say thanks and shut the door.
